You’ve taken the plunge and set up your own business - congratulations! It’s running well so far and, through your dedication and hard work, you’ve built up a good following.
From the outside, you’re all smiles. Everything is great and you can’t wait to see what the future holds.
But scroll through social media and you notice that those around you are advancing by leaps and bounds. They’re using FB Live and Instagram stories to hold talks and Q&As. They’re speaking at all the major expos - it can’t be long until they’re doing their first TED talk. Somehow, they’re able to connect with their followers on another level and really stand out.
Meanwhile, your story is getting lost in the noise of other entrepreneurs and you just don’t know how else to stand out.
Deep down you’re starting to wonder if you should have started this journey in the first place. You’re a little bruised that you haven’t been able to take these steps yourself and wondering, ‘why does this always happen to me?’
I understand how it hurts to feel you’re not good enough.
I understand what it’s like when people ask you how business is going and you feel like you’re constantly searching for the right answer. How it feels to prove yourself with ‘shiny things’; your new photos, product launch or website.
Yet you also hide behind them, scared to show your true self.
Having once been guilty of ‘compare and despair’ myself, too scared to speak up and show who I really was, and constantly battling with that idea that I wasn’t good enough, I know how you feel - I really do.
‘Take Drama GCSE and if nothing else, it’ll help you to communicate’
It was spring and I was choosing which subjects to take for my GCSEs. I was popular, full of life and had always been into the performing arts. I was always happy to help those in need and keen to do well at school.
But that summer, when I was just thirteen years old, I became ill with an eating disorder. My ability to attend school decreased. I was hospitalised for two weeks and, after being sent home, I was down to one lesson a day at school. By New Year, I was to be hospitalised again - only this time in a full-time adolescent unit. I spent three months there as an inpatient, with several weekly visits from friends and family. At Easter, it was decided I was to become a day patient and, in June, I was discharged.
When I returned to the ‘real world’, I had totally lost my sense of identity. My friends were all in a different place. I was nearly a year behind on lessons. And I was about to go into my final year of GCSEs. But suddenly I had a lot of catching up to do. Drama was always my favourite subject, yet now even the idea of standing up in front of my peers was absolutely terrifying.
Through sheer determination, I did it (and got 4 A*s in the process!). I moved schools and developed a great group of friends. I was finally starting to find who I was again.
Drama was always ‘my’ subject. Despite gaining a place to take Psychology at uni, I went against the wishes of my careers advisor at school. On results day, I told her that I would not be taking it and instead pursue my dream to audition for drama school (nearly giving both her and my parents a heart attack in the process!).
After a year of long, grueling audition periods, I started at the prestigious Mountview Academy of Theatre Arts in London. I had the absolute time of my life. By the time I was finished I was ambitious, optimistic and ready for the world outside.
Soon the reality of the acting industry hit - many temp jobs, many packs of 13p noodles and many nights awake wondering if I’d done the right thing.
Fast forward to a year later and my vision of the world changed once again.
My parents went their separate ways and a huge part of my identity suddenly changed beyond my control.
As those dear to me rebuilt their worlds, I rebuilt mine. I started new work and, although I’d happily stand up in front of an audience as a character, I suddenly found myself having to stand up and speak as myself… AND IT WAS TERRIFYING.
I began to hone my communication skills and - through constant practice - I came to realise how vital these skills are. It led me to realise that my thoughts, feelings and opinions are valid and how every experience up to this point made me who I am.
In the words of Kelly Clarkson, ‘What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger..’ - cue hairbrush moment!
So why do we so often shy away from our stories and think we don’t count?
Whether it be for school age children who are growing up in the world of comparison and social media, an entrepreneur trying to make their way, or a consultant leading a pitch - we all need to communicate as effectively as possible.
Today, maybe you’ve taken the first steps to advance your business - maybe you’ve listened to Podcasts, ordered a book or two from Amazon and watched a few YouTube videos.
Yet you still need something more. It’s very easy to read books and watch videos but somewhat harder to actually put it into practice. You’re feeling stuck, lost and left behind. You know there is no ‘quick fix’ and you’re in this for the long haul.
What you really want to know is how to make yourself stand out from the crowd. To become well known and even sought out in your industry. To connect with your audience on another level and for them to love your brand because of you.
My Single Sessions and Signature Programme have been specifically designed with that in mind. Together, we’ll get you feeling empowered, work to uncover who you really are and find out what your story is.
After our time working together, you’ll feel self assured and confident with who you are and what you’re about. You’ll be inspired by your own message and will feel like the equal contender in the industry that you are. You’ll be open to collaborations and an increase in booking speaking gigs, your followers and ultimately, clients!
So, if you’ve had enough of dreaming of ‘one day’ and are ready to learn what it takes to make you stand out - I’d love to hear from you.